My church and why I hate it

I know from the title the assumptions are already flying but bear with me. My church. This is the first time I’ve ever says those words. My church. It’s mine. It’s not where I go. It’s not our church, not my family’s church. No, it’s […]

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Parallel Lines

Anyone who has taken any kind of math (from my generation anyway) knows what parallel lines are or at least once upon a time they did when it comes to up on a test. Parallel is defined as this: (of lines, planes, and surfaces) side […]

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What’s it like…?

Recently I was asked to describe sexual assault and the aftermath of it for some research. It took me a few days to gather myself to do it. What I  was not ready for were some of the answers I wrote while I was acutally […]

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When walls begin to crumble

D K, I won’t preface this with “Dear” because there’s absolutely nothing dear about you or your memory. Do you remember? Because I do. Do you remember the 19 year old girl you were “dating” when you drove to that little house where she babysat […]

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it’s not about the closet

We moved into a house that had a (microscopic) master closet but even that is too generous. There were no racks, shelves, hooks… Nothing beyond walls and a door with two flimsy $20 floor stands that fell over if you tried to have anything on them. Let […]

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and on wednesdays, we wear hurt

I know…Wednesday is long gone (like yesterday). And I also know how the line really goes- “And on Wednesdays, we wear pink.” I would love to just wear pink and call it a day. But I can’t breathe. My heart hurts. I want to cry […]

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maybe it was the minivan…

There was just something so final about the day we drove that thing home, as if my fate were now sealed. Finally, it was decided- I am nothing more than a mom. Sure, “it’s the best job ever; it’s the most important thing you’ll ever […]

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i wouldn’t wish me on anyone

I am sure reading that phrase would anyone counter by telling me I must have little to no self esteem to say something this drastic. Perhaps, or maybe it is the fact that I am looking at things from a more realistic perspective. I am viewing […]

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stranger things- my version

The day you wake up and realize you married a stranger is the day what was left of your world comes crashing down, threatening to smother you in ways you never thought possible.  It is also the day that you realize how very alone you […]

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